The way we see the problem IS the problem
Quotes from the author:
“People are intrigued when they see good things happening in the lives of individuals, families, and organizations that are based on solid principles. They admire such personal strength and maturity, such family unity and teamwork, such adaptive synergistic organizational culture.
And their immediate request is very revealing of their basic paradigm. ‘How do you do it? Teach me the techniques.’ What they are really they’re really saying is, ‘Give me some quick fix advice or solution that will relieve the pain in my own situation.’ (Personality Ethic)
They will find people who will meet their wants and teach these things; and for a short time, skills and techniques may appear to work. They may eliminate some of the cosmetic or acute problems through social aspirin and band-aids.
But the underlying chronic condition remains, and eventually new acute symptoms will appear. The more people are into quick fix and focus on the acute problems and pain, the more that very approach contributes to the underlying chronic condition.
The way we see the problem IS the problem.
Can you see how fundamentally the paradigms of the Personality Ethic affect the very way we see our problems as well as the way we attempt to solve them?
Whether people see it or not, many are becoming disillusioned with the empty promises of the Personality Ethic. As I travel around the country and work with organizations, I find that long-term thinking executives are simply turned off by psych up psychology and ‘motivational’ speakers who have nothing more to share than entertaining stories mingled with platitudes.
They want substance; they want process. They want more than aspirin and band-aids. They want to solve the chronic underlying problems and focus on the principles that bring long-term results.
Fortunately, while working for Dow Chemical, I attended many training programs that addressed the importance of Character Ethic over Personality Ethic, and yet it didn’t “take” on some who attended. Those not willing or able to accept, internalize, or live the Character Ethic model fell back into their old patterns (Personality Ethic). Doing so did not always interfere with their upward mobility, but it did affect their employees since many would stop by my office to complain about the continued poor leadership skills.
Unfortunately, the Personality Ethic works in government, as we saw last night at the State of the Union address (January 28, 2014). There we saw the largest collection of phonies/buffoons in the history of the planet. It was a perfect picture of what the Personality Ethic has gotten us; a country divided, deep in debt, and soon will result in the country losing its leadership role in the world. Our downward spiral has started, and will not be reversed, no matter how many “empty” words are spoken, and regardless of how much we complain.