“Habit 3 is the personal fruit, the practical fulfillment of Habits 1 and 2.
Habit 1 says, ‘You’re the creator. ‘You are in charge.’ It’s based on the FOUR unique human endowments of imagination, conscience, independent will, and, particularly, self-awareness. It empowers you to say, ‘That’s an unhealthy program I‘ve been given from my childhood, from my social mirror. I don’t like that ineffective script. I can change.’
Habit 2 is the first or mental creation. It’s based on IMAGINATION—the ability to envision, to see the potential, to create with our minds what we cannot at present see with our eyes; and CONSCIENCE—the ability to detect our own uniqueness and the personal, moral, and ethical guidelines within which we can most happily fulfill it. It’s the deep contact with our basic paradigms and values and the vision of what we can become.
Habit 3, then, is the second creation, the physical creation. It’s the fulfillment, the actualization, the natural emergence of Habits 1 and 2. It’s the exercise of independent will toward becoming principle-centered. It’s the day-in, day-out, moment-by-moment doing it.
Habits 1 and 2 are absolutely essential and prerequisite to Habit 3. You can’t become principle-centered without first being aware of and developing your own proactive nature. You can’t become principle-centered without first being aware of your paradigms and understanding how to shift them and align them with principles. You can’t become principle-centered without a vision of and a focus on the unique contribution that is yours to make.
But with that foundation, you can become principle-centered, day-in and day-out, moment-by-moment, by living Habit 3—by practicing effective self-management.
Management, remember, is clearly different from leadership. Leadership is primarily a high-powered, right brain activity. It’s more of an art; it’s based on a philosophy. You have to ask the ultimate questions of life when you’re dealing with personal leadership issues.
But once you have dealt with those issues, once you have resolved them, you then have to manage yourself effectively to create a life congruent with your answers. The ability to manage well doesn’t make much difference if you’re not even in the ‘right jungle.’ But if you are in the right jungle, it makes all the difference. In fact, the ability to manage well determines the quality and even the existence of the second creation. Management is the breaking down, the analysis, the sequencing, the specific application, the time-bound left-brain aspect of effective self-government. My own maxim of personal effectiveness is this: MANAGE FROM THE LEFT; LEAD FROM THE RIGHT.”
Unfortunately, many left-brain dominant people managers apply management principles (paragraph 7 above) when instead they should be applying principles of leadership (paragraph 6). Leadership IS an art, a philosophy. Few master it, but it is easy to spot. Leadership is sometimes “by-passed”, by those who could/should lead, just to stay in “good favor” with “higher ups” (also known as unprincipled behavior).
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Principles Of Personal Management
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