“These four factors—Security, guidance, wisdom, and power—are interdependent. Security and clear guidance bring true wisdom, and wisdom becomes the spark or catalyst to release and direct power. When these four factors are present together, harmonized and enlivened by each other, they create the great force of a noble personality, a balanced character, a beautifully integrated individual.
These life-support factors also under gird every other dimension of life. And none of them is an all-or-nothing matter. The degree to which you have developed each one could one could be charted somewhere on a continuum, much like the maturity continuum described earlier. At the bottom end, the four factors are weak. You are basically dependent on circumstances or other people, things over which you have no direct control. At the top end you are in control. You have independent strength and the foundation for rich, interdependent relationships.
Your security lies somewhere on the continuum between extreme insecurity on one end, wherein your life is buffeted by all the fickle forces that play upon it, and a deep sense of high intrinsic worth and personal security on the other end. Your guidance ranges on the continuum from dependence on the social mirror or other unstable, fluctuating sources to strong inner direction. Your wisdom falls somewhere between a totally inaccurate map where everything is distorted and nothing seems to fit, and a complete and accurate map of life wherein all the parts and principles are properly related to each other. You power lies somewhere between immobilization or being a puppet pulled by someone else’s strings to high proactivity, the power to act according you your own values instead of being acted upon by other people and circumstances.
The location of these factors on the continuum, the resulting degree of their integration, harmony, and balance, and their positive impact on every aspect of your life is a function of your center, the basic paradigms at your very core.”
So what is “at the center” of those who “managed” us? How many “managers” we know or worked were/are—
1. Very insecure, buffeted by those fickle forces that play upon that insecurity?
2. Dependent on the social mirror, and other unstable sources?
3. Lacking wisdom and live with a totally inaccurate map, full of distortions, with no sense of “fit”?
4. Powerless—immobilized; puppets being pulled around by someone’s “strings”?
In my experience? Too many. They were seen as lacking consistency, empathy, organization, vision, honesty, and were good at pointing fingers.
Remember, Leaders are like Eagles. They don’t flock; you find them one at a time. They possess a deep sense of worth, security, with strong inner direction, with a complete and accurate map of life, and the ability to act according to self values, and not other people and circumstances.
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