The way we see the problem IS the problem

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The way we see the problem IS the problem

Quotes from the author:

“People are intrigued when they see good things happening in the lives of individuals, families, and organizations that are based on solid principles. They admire such personal strength and maturity, such family unity and teamwork, such adaptive synergistic organizational culture.

And their immediate request is very revealing of their basic paradigm. ‘How do you do it? Teach me the techniques.’ What they are really they’re really saying is, ‘Give me some quick fix advice or solution that will relieve the pain in my own situation.’ (Personality Ethic) Continue reading “The way we see the problem IS the problem”

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Principles Of Growth and Change continued

More personal comments from my January 8 post

The focus of these comments is on the following statement from Covey: “To relate effectively we must learn to listen. And this requires emotional strength. Listening involves patience, openness, and the desire to understand—highly developed qualities of character.” Continue reading ““Inside-Out” continued”

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Personal comments from previous post:

Remember that the Personality Ethic is illusory, deceptive and ineffective in obtaining quality results. I have very vivid memories, unfortunately, of bosses unable to grasp the sequential stages of growth and development idea, who expected high quality results, failed, and always found someone to blame (not themselves, of course). Continue reading ““Inside-Out” continued Principles Of Growth and Change”

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Principles Of Growth and Change

Quotes from the author:

“The glitter of the Personality Ethic, the massive appeal, is that there is some quick and easy way to achieve quality of life—personal effectiveness and rich, deep relationships with other people—without going through the natural process of work and growth that makes it possible.

It’s a symbol without substance. Continue reading ““Inside-Out” continued”

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The Principled Centered Paradigm

Personal comments from last week’s post:

Remembering Covey’s definition of Character Ethic:

“Character Ethic, the foundation of success—things like integrity, humility, fidelity, temperance, courage, justice, patience, industry, simplicity, modesty, and the Golden rule. Also, the principle of fairness, out of which comes the concept of equity and justice, honesty (which create the foundation of trust, which is essential to cooperation and long-term personal and interpersonal growth). Human dignity, service (the idea of making a contribution), excellence, potential, growth (process of releasing potential and developing talent), with the accompanying need for patience, nurturance, and encouragement.”

WHERE CHARACTER ETHIC DOES NOT EXIST: Continue reading ““Inside-Out” continued”